A quote from Kristen Neff, self compassion researcher explains self compassion thus, “Instead of mercilessly judging and criticizing yourself for various inadequacies or shortcomings, self-compassion means you are kind and understanding when confronted with personal failings – after all, who ever said you were supposed to be perfect?”
A good place to start is to try out this self assessment: https://self-compassion.org/test-how-self-compassionate-yo…/